
The comment I got from Diana last week really got me thinking about the word home. Why do any of us live where we do and when we move somewhere new, how do we make this new place a place of our own? There are so many phrases when it comes to the meaning of the word: “Home is where the heart is”, “My Home away from Home”, “There is no place like Home”, just to mention a few. When you really think about the word in these contexts Home is not just a location, it is a place in your heart, a feeling, a sense of being in the right place.
For those of us who have wanderlust and the travel bug and the need to go and see the world, does this mean that we don’t have a sense of home, or that we are looking for home? Are we are more nomadic than people who are born, raised, live and die in the same town, or even the same state? Why is it that some people move all the time and some are content to stay where they are?
These are the kinds of questions I have been asking myself, now that I am over the 6 month mark of our move to Florida. I have lived in a lot of places. I was born in PA, I lived in Delaware until 4th grade, then grew up in The Washington, DC area, lived in Norway before college, moved to Massachusetts for college, spent time in Arizona, moved back to Maryland, moved back to Massachusetts, moved to Vermont and now I find myself in Florida. When I list it all out like this, it seems to me like an awful lot of places. How has this happened? Is it just circumstance or do I choose this unconsciously? Perhaps I am looking for a certain feeling when I live somewhere that I recognize as HOME.
So what is home? What is that feeling I am pursuing? To me, home is where you feel secure, where you feel light and unburdened. Home is where you lay your head at night and where the people you love are. It is an energy and an understanding of being where you are meant to be in the cosmic sense. So if you are with family and loved ones, shouldn’t anywhere feel like home? For me, the answer is no. But I am not sure what the explanation is.
Sometimes I feel root-less. I wish at those times that I did have a place where my loved ones are, but that the place itself has that characteristic of home. Sometimes I wish I didn’t have so many choices about where I could live, but just lived and stayed in one place.
So when I move to a new place, I am always trying to seek out things I enjoyed about the last place I lived, and replace them with new versions. Sometimes I am not able to, and it makes me feel out of place. But I always try to find the best in a place, really search it all out and look for those hidden places that might have a whiff of that feeling of Home.
I do believe I will find that place someday, and until then I will keep searching the globe until I do. For now though I am happy where I am. I am having a great time exploring my new home state – seeking out all those places I still have to find, wondering if maybe one of them will bring me home.

Debo Hobo - August 30, 2007 at 12:09 pm
I too have a very nomadic spirit. A free spirit my mother calls it, my heartbeat is in the wind.
I have a propensity for moving every three years. For the first two years in a place I am as happy as a lark, but on the way through the third year the flaws and short coming of the place I am living overwhelm me and on the move I am again. CT, FL, CT, TX, AZ, TX. I’m going into my third year now and I feel as though CA may be my next stop.
I don’t feel rootless for some reason though, family and friends always love coming to visit me wherever I end up and we become tourist together.
Jenn - August 30, 2007 at 1:51 pm
Well! It is good to know I am not alone! Thanks for the comment!
J.Doe - September 1, 2007 at 10:00 am
I am sort of homeless myself… Born in one state, raised in another, then another, Then I moved abroad, then I returned to the USA and the state where I was raised. Now I live in another. Whenever I visit a place I used to live or just live in a place I feel like I don’t belong. Not that that is a bad feeling though. Not being a native you can see the quirkiness of local behaviors and accept or reject them. maybe there s someplace where I’ll feel ‘at home’, but I haven’t found it so far.
Arlene - September 1, 2007 at 2:52 pm
I think it is about making the place where you are FEEL like home. Not so much dealing with the appearance itself, but the way the house is alive and how the people who dwell there connect with the space and with each other.
I have been thinking about the places we have lived and how some of them never did feel like being at home. It didn’t matter whether it was a big town or small, or how many places of interest their were. I have lived in places where there were tons of places to visit, but that wasn’t it. How many times do people live in a town loaded with theaters, museums, restaurants, etc. and yet never go to them anyway, except on special occasions or when out of towners came.
The fault could lie in not defining who we are and then putting that personal stamp on the place that we call home. Not an easy task. And that may be why so many people struggle with this. You know how when you visit someone and they say make yourself at home. Well, it is like that. You can be comfortable in the place where you are living, love the people who are living there with you and still not have the sense of being “at home” in the place. When I get down to it and try to think of the place that made me feel at home, it was the house where I grew up. Nothing special about the house. It was about the way of living in in. Having beautiful things around wasn’t it. It was the feeling of belonging and of deep family rituals and traditions that gave me that special feeling of comfort from within. That has alluded me ever since and I am still trying to find that again.
Looks like we have a job to do. Thanks for making me think about this.
Jenn - September 1, 2007 at 7:54 pm
Hi J.Doe and thanks for sharing your perspective on the idea of “home” and what it means for you! I feel this is such an interesting topic and so fascinating the different opinions!
Hi Mom! Thanks for sharing your opinions on this as well! I agree with you are saying completely about the abode in which we live and making it your own! I appreciate your thoughts on this!
sognatrice - September 2, 2007 at 7:48 am
I love this discussion as so many different viewpoints and ideas always emerge; I wrote a bit about this on my blog when someone asked me where I call home, and I also liked two posts on this over at The Passionate Palate
Jenn - September 2, 2007 at 12:52 pm
Yes, I did read your article some while back! I will have to check out the others!
Truffle - September 3, 2007 at 10:24 am
I enjoyed this post immensely. I vary between having the travel bug and wanting to plant my roots in one place. Oh the indecision!
Jenn - September 3, 2007 at 11:05 am
I know just how you feel, Truffle!
Jeni - September 6, 2007 at 12:31 am
Boy, we were thinking alike with our posts, huh? I just spotted another blog post somewhere else today about this same subject. I think there are those of us whose souls are very inspired by and can be tied to places, more than other people. Other people’s souls may be tied to a place because of the people there. It is hard to put into words, but I am with you – a kindred spirit, traveler, gypsy, curious woman with wanderlust!
Oh, by the way, how do we find out which music is playing on these posts?
Cris - September 6, 2007 at 12:13 pm
I feel completely homeless sometimes when I am homesick for the US, I miss my friends, the places I visited etc… but I realized home is where my heart is, because I become so attached to the places I live that I can call anywhere home…
Jenn - September 6, 2007 at 9:28 pm
Hey Jeni! Yes, I feel totally connected to what you are saying. It is a weird almost indescribable feeling, which is strange for me, because I use words all the time – but these are one of the things I have no words for. (If you look up on the right hand corner of the blog, it tells you the artist and CD of the music playing! – glad you enjoy it!)
Hi Cris!Yes, I guess what you are saying is really the best way to describe this feeling! Does that mean we leave pieces of our hearts everywhere we live?
Janet - September 6, 2007 at 10:48 pm
Your post about home really hit home! I have a couple of crosstitch samplers. One says, “Home Sweet Home,” and the other says, “Home is where you hang your hat!”
Unlike some of you, I have never lived out of Alabama, although I have lived in several towns. I grew up in Greensboro, then lived in a couple of college towns, married and lived a couple other places before moving to Selma – just an hour from where I grew up! I guess I kind of followed the family circle. My grandmother and grandfather met in Selma and married here, then moved to Greensboro. Well, I’m back!
Jenn - September 8, 2007 at 7:48 pm
Thanks so much for your comment Janet! I think your living situation is wonderful! Sometimes that is all I wish for!